The newness of having a child is still there and in some cases the sleep is still infrequent. This stage in a child's life is about learning to communicate and becoming more independent. But how do you deal with a crying whiny baby?
Sign language has helped many children communicate their needs earlier without crying. This doesn't always work and impatience and irritation can lead to regret. I've heard stories and even known people first hand who have thrown, beat, or injured their baby. THIS IS NOT ACCEPTABLE and in my opinion disallows any participant from having any contact with their child. Handling the crying and whining appropriately has to deal with love. Four things can greatly improve these years for you and your child.
First, learn to know your child's routines. Does your child normally get hungry at a certain time? Does your child fill his diaper at a certain time? Has it been awhile since your child ate? Knowing the routines of our children help us to know how to comfort them. For example, a child that is crying because he/she is hungry could be fed. A child that has a stomachache because she/he is trying to go poddy could have his/her stomach rubbed to relieve the discomfort.
Second, have tough love. At this age? Yes. Tough love doesn't mean you don't comfort them when they get hurt, but it does mean you let them cry sometimes. Reasons you might let them cry are: When they are over six months and you know that they're healthy, not hungry, and not injured and they just don't want to go to sleep. When it is time to teach your child to crawl you must give them tummy time. Tummy time is where you place your child on her/his tummy after about 4-6 months so the child can begin to learn to roll over and eventually crawl. Some children hate it others love it. IF YOUR CHILD HATES IT STILL DO IT. Teaching your child isn't always easy, but you can do it.
Third, love like there's no tomorrow. Imagine if your child died tomorrow. Would he/she know that you loved him/her? Showing love can come by playing, singing and by simply saying it. You will find different ways that are unique to your child. The bottom line is to do it and do it often.
Fourth, good parents are well rested and have alone time. Your child should be given to grandma and grandpa to watch. I recommend that husband and wife go out once a week. Your child will actually grow more as she/he learns a new environment and you are rejuvenated.
Your child is precious, but nobody is perfect so don't beat yourself up. Keep trying and eventually when your kids leave the house you'll have it figured out.
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